I used to think- at a time when different circumstances meant I did not have a lot of access to the internet (we just didn't have it at home! GASP!)- that a lesbian can only either be a "Boya" or a "Banoota".
That is Arabic for what roughly translates as a butch/femme dynamic.
Nobody said that.
So I will stop saying that, too.
Not for my sake, I've stopped labeling myself.
It's just for the sake of humanity, I guess.